But when someone agrees with us, they validate our worldviews and as result we want continuing contact with that person.Knowing all this, is it possible to predict with any accuracy whether two people will form a stable relationship? One the difficulties with these sorts of predictions is that relationships are complex and often messy.About a half of romantic relationships are formed between people who live relatively near each other and the greater the geographical distance between two people, the less likely they are to get together.Of course, online dating and dating apps have changed where we meet our future partners.And so I began researching the science of how we form relationships.One thing I learned very quickly was that there are no “laws of attraction”, no guarantees of success in dating, no foolproof methods or strategies for getting someone to date you.But more important than sociodemographics is similarity of values – everything from musical tastes to political orientation.We’re all motivated to think that our views of the world are right and when someone disagrees with us, we feel uncomfortable in their presence.
They view their partners as more attractive than objective reality – something I’ve called the “love-is-blind bias”. This idea of reciprocity may sound very simple, but it has incredibly important implications for all relationships.
A scientific perspective with heavy doses of humour gives a very different take on some familiar topics.
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) and decided to get back into the world of dating.
One thing that struck me very early on in my forays was that everyone had an opinion about “what worked” in terms of dating.