I shared my feelings with her about something she'd done that had genuinely hurt my feelings.
Her response was that I wasn't being emotionally honest.
This became clear when a few weeks into the relationship, she wanted to step it up to the next level -- commitment -- and I backed off.
I was anxious in part because a few weeks just aren't enough for me to feel trusting.
When the feeling that something wasn't working for me in my new relationship kept plaguing me, I figured it was time to regroup.
She was pressuring me to become sexual and go with the flow, neither of which felt okay with me.
It's also an opportunity to discover the sweet subtleties of a woman's nature.
I've defeated this pesky nemesis, but he's resilient.I still feel anxious when I reject a woman's online invitation, or when a woman rejects mine.I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, and I don't want mine hurt either.But rushing to fall in love makes falling in love impossible for me, because the pressure to commit doesn't allow my feelings to develop naturally.In truth, falling in love is hard to resist in midlife.