You can absolutely still get the most out of college without sleeping around – hooking up with lots of people might make a great experience for some people, but everyone is different.
Hooking up on college campuses has become more frequent than dating in heterosexual sexual interaction.
Even if they’re happy with someone, they need to experience more people for it to be a “complete college experience”. I have two friends who dated for two years in secondary school.
They go to the same college, live together, sit together, and rush home to each other nightly.
All things being equal, 95 percent of female students said they would choose dating over hooking up, and 77.5 percent of men said the same. Arnie Kahn, one of three co-authors of the study, which grew out of undergraduate student Carolyn Bradshaw's thesis, says it comes down to something called “pluralistic ignorance.” Essentially: Everybody's doing it, so it must be good.
One of Kahn's previous studies on the topic found that both men and women overestimated the degree to which the opposite gender enjoyed hooking up — described in this study as “a sexual encounter, usually lasting only one night, between people who are strangers or brief acquaintances.” Furthermore, students overestimated how much members of their own gender liked hooking up.
The study, based on surveys of 220 undergrads, found that students are plenty aware of the risks of hooking up, as well.
Both genders perceived similar benefits and risks to dating and hooking up; differences provided insight into the sexual motives of college women and men.
A new study by psychologists at James Madison University in Virginia found — not surprisingly — that college students hooked upalmost twice as often as they went on actual dates. The majority of students from both genders said that given the choice, they preferred traditional dating.
Whereas you know that you don't like it that much, but you do it to go along," Kahn explains.
"College students are very conformist." The new study, published in March, also helps explain why hooking up has become so prevalent.